Sunday, August 19, 2007

Women who dare


Just in case you think that Jenn and I are couch potatoes and spend way too much time on the computer, I'm proud to present a photo diary of our recent getaway in Vermont.



We hugged trees...



Went out on a limb...



Cleared forests, one tree at a time.





We climbed up ...







And we climbed down.



We scaled the heights ...





Crawled over bridges ...



Pushed ourselves to new limits of endurance ...





And showed true grit ...







We met Mother Nature and kicked her butt.



Next time we do a getaway weekend, I'm voting for a spa.

Saturday, August 11, 2007

Family reunion

The nine people I love most are together this weekend. I’m not with them but I see them clearly. In my mind. They are thousands of miles away but very much with me. I can envision the teasing looks and wry humor of the four adults. I can hear the squeals of laughter and delight from the younger set … five little grandchildren, five little cousins. Getting acquainted anew.

I sit under the shade of two sturdy oaks, watching the ripples of a lake populated by other people’s grandchildren. But I am really miles away … in a sunlit house where a grown son and daughter, their spouses, and my Ben, Sophie, Olivia, Hannah and Iris are sitting at a table, eating breakfast, enjoying each other’s company. My son is cooking, my son-in-law is probably brewing coffee, my daughter and daughter-in-law are laughing and catching up on almost two years’ worth of family history.

The kids may or may not be sitting down to enjoy the gourmet breakfast. They may be racing through the house, giggling and becoming the fast friends I want them to be - the cousin-friends who will email each other and share news and secrets as they grow up. I never had a sibling but I had plenty of cousins. Cousins are neat. They don’t hang around long enough to annoy you and barge into your bedroom. They are user-friendly.


The grown-ups will be getting re-acquainted too. Distance is a bummer. Brothers and sisters need to be reminded, in person, of just how special a bond they share. They need to hug and touch, laugh and cry. I loved my cousins but, truth be told, I did miss a brother or sister – even if I would have had to share my space.




I wish I could be with them all at this very moment. I am. In my heart.

A sudden breeze ruffles my hair and my gaze returns to the families around me. A group at a picnic table is singing “Happy Birthday, dear Laura ..." Applause. Shouts to the birthday girl to “open your presents”.

Presents.

Presence.

Gifts of the heart and mind.

The people I love most in all the world are together this weekend.

I am content. I can live with that.

Wednesday, August 08, 2007

Getaway, Part Two



I'm waiting for Jenn to spin this tale but she's just given me permission to write about our unusual encounter with the Inn's former mistress, Mrs. Barstow.

Let's face it, spending a night in an old historic inn with my daughter (who dotes on ghosts) wouldn't be complete without a paranormal event.

We drove to Vermont on a bit of a whim, settled in, took a hike, and ate a grand dinner. We then retired to the parlor (think Victorian) for an intense game of Scrabble. Mother and daughter, very competitive. I'm still not sure that "IQ" was a valid entry but I gave Jenn the benefit of the doubt. Luckily, I managed to make a comeback at the end with "jewelry" and won the game by two points! Life was good.

We decided to end the evening with some quiet conversation on the front porch. The other guests had already gone up to their rooms and the owner was nowhere in sight. As we walked through the house and onto the porch, Jenn and I heard three notes struck on the old piano which sat in the sitting room where we had played Scrabble. Three consecutive notes ... a quarter note and two eighth notes, same tone.



It was a warm night and all the windows were open. I looked at her and she looked at me, and we got this odd feeling. Someone at the piano? We didn't see the owner walk back into that room. Jenn turned to me and suggested that I go see who was playing. The lights were still on but we couldn't see clearly through the windows. I padded back into the house, walked into the room and, of course, no one was there. The piano bench was pulled out a bit but empty. After dealing with Mrs. Kitchen and Mr. Pipe and our friend's psychic readings, this lack of a body seemed no big deal.

We sat back down on the porch rocking chairs and soon our host came out for a late-night chat. We, of course, asked him if he had snuck in and played the three notes on the piano. He, of course, did not and seemed surprised at our story.





He had a story of his own. He told us that this inn was built around 1865 by a wealthy businessman named Barstow. He and his wife lived an aristocratic lifestyle entertaining the likes of Thomas Edison and the Rockefellers on their front porch, the one we were now sitting on. Wow.

Mr. Barstow and his wife were philanthropists and good people. They had one son, who died as a young man. They then dedicated a local school in his honor. Mr. Barstow played the organ and piano. Mrs. Barstow may have also entertained on a piano in their Victorian parlor.

By now, Jenn was getting her strange scalp tingles and certain that the Barstows were still around. Actually, Mrs. Barstow - Jenn was getting her lady-ghost tingle. Believe me, when Jenn's scalp tingles, you have guests. The owner of the inn seemed amused but a bit dubious about the three notes on the piano. We, however, weren't.

After he went to bed, Jenn and I continued to think about what we both heard. We could hear the notes so clearly and thought they sounded somewhere in the range of middle "C". Jenn went back next morning and found the right note: the "B" below middle "C".

B for Barstow.



Play it again, ma'am.

Tuesday, August 07, 2007

Iris had a birthday




Times like these, it's hard to be 3,000 miles away. I can still remember her daddy clamoring for "juice, more juice" in his crib.

Here she is, turning one, and being introduced to a birthday cupcake.

The baby of the clan.

Happy Birthday, Iris!











Looks like the party was a success.

Saturday, August 04, 2007

Hattie talk

This is the week of the Hattie Belle. I was sitting on the sofa tonight between her and big sis, Sophie. We were watching a Tom and Jerry DVD. She was giggling uncontrollably, squealing at their silly antics.

"I can't hold it in ... I can't hold it in", she kept repeating, mostly to herself. I looked at her in amazement. Out of the mouths of babes. It seemed such a grown-up moment for a three-year old.

She turned to me and felt she had to justify her laugh attack. "Babci, I can't stop laughing. Tom and Jerry are SO funny."

For one night, Barbie Princesses were forgotten as my granddaughter was introduced to the adventures of a cartoon cat and mouse who delighted me as a kid. I shared in her glee. She reminded me of another little girl so many years ago ....

Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Getaway, Part One

Take a lazy summer weekend, thunderstorms predicted. Take one mother and one adult daughter, looking for some fun. Take one Canadian son-in-law willing to mind the munchkins for a night. Take a much needed mini-vacation before the mother starts working full-time this week.



Find a Saturday-night vacancy at a charming inn in Vermont. Find a credit card that can still absorb some new charges. Find a map. Find an overnight bag. Find car keys. Pick up daughter. Get outta town!





Jenn and I managed an impromptu overnighter this past weekend to a secluded bed-and-breakfast where we dined on grilled tuna steak for dinner and blueberry pancakes with Vermont maple syrup for breakfast, compliments of the hosts. Alex and Anne pampered us and we enjoyed every decadent minute.



Besides eating, we hiked a trail, took plenty of photos, laughed till our stomachs hurt, drank a bottle of wine, played Scrabble late into the night, shared a ghostly experience (a given when traveling with Jenn), talked about old boyfriends, happy marriages, cosmic connections, and marveled at the fascinating little people Hannah and Sophie are becoming. We also challenged each other on the hike and while sitting on the front porch. At Jenn’s nudge, I actually wrote a birthday card to that high-school boyfriend whom I still dream about. Just ‘cause.



On the way back, we took a longer scenic route, stopping to walk through an old cemetery where I read the gravestone of a “Minuteman who served with George Washington in New Jersey and also at Bunker Hill”. Awesome.
It was a very hot Sunday but the weekend thunderstorms never arrived. So we browsed a town’s bookstore, art gallery and ended up in an antique shop which turned into an ice-cream parlor. We sat on its shady porch, eating gourmet ice-cream while the heat rippled on the sidewalk. I turned up the car air-conditioner as we drove along country roads and lakefronts. Jenn and I had talked and teased so much already that we were quite comfortable with our own thoughts as we admired the green beauty of Vermont out the car windows.

I’m going to share some of the nature pics I took on our hike. There are other stories to tell and other photos to show but Jenn may have a few tales of her own to spin first. So, for now, I’ll be good and do the landscape portion.











Have to wrap this up tonight as I'm starting my full-time hours very early in the morning. Join me later for Part Two!

Friday, July 27, 2007

The real thing

As I've mentioned, I gained a few pounds this winter and they are really dragging me down, physically and emotionally. My clothes are screaming at me, "fashion abuse", as buttons pop and zippers strain. Well, it's not quite that bad but remember my family motto? Never let truth get in the way of a good story.

I've got to find a way to shed a few pounds.

Plan A (which I did last summer with a home-delivery diet meal plan) didn't seem to work. My checkbook lost weight, not me.

I never got to Plan B when I moved as the new job and dark chocolate in the secretary's desk drawer kept me occupied and quite content during my first New England winter. I convinced myself that dark chocolate was every bit as important as Lipitor in maintaining a healthy heart. See? Never let truth get in the way of self-gratification. Denial and dark chocolate are such compatible bedfellows.

Now I have to worry about my girlfriends. The latest research suggests that your friends determine your weight. They are a bigger influence than family and neighbors. Your friend can live miles away but, if she puts on a few pounds, rest assured that you're more than likely to add an extra dress size to your wardrobe too. It must be some kind of soul-food sisterhood connection. Be careful of the friends you keep.

And then there's the whole get-out-there-and-move-your-butt requirement. I like to exercise my mind much more than my body. This is a problem. I did find my groove a couple years ago but then lost my pedometer on the streets of London. Can't walk without my pedometer. What fun is walking if you can't see the instant results of your efforts? I liked that little gadget translating my steps into calories burned but I haven't budgeted for a new one yet. So, I have not budged it much. I sit at the computer and do stuff like this or write sci-fi romance fics. Appalling, isn't it. When it comes to escapism versus exercise, you know where my vote lies.

Which brings me back to the topic at hand. I've gained weight and am fed up (pardon another pun) with all the many weight-loss miracle cures. I've decided to part company with the high-carb, low-protein, low-carb, high-protein, daily calorie-counting diets and their gurus. It just takes too much effort and too little positive payback. At my age, I'm not looking to shove myself back into a bikini. The glory days of youth are over. I'd just like to buy a smaller bra.

I'm going for the quick fix, the sure thing. And I think I've found it, thanks to a medical friend of mine. I don't know her dress size and will not ask. Why spoil a great relationship? She has shared what may be the Holy Grail of dieting.

I can lose weight easily and on my own. I can stop adding to the profit margin of the weight-loss industry. You can join me, girlfriend!

Here, for the first time ever, is the Mater's fool-proof plan for losing weight.


High-protein all the way. Make sure you add a piece of dark chocolate to balance out the carbs.

I'm all for a well-balanced diet.

Thursday, July 26, 2007

Dear diary (or not)

I've hit a dry spell. Sitting here, looking at the screen, trying to think of a clever or witty topic to write about. Oh, I have been tagged recently for two memes. I cut and pasted the info and still am not ready to write six or seven random thoughts. Maybe that's because I can't think of six or seven things in my life that I want to share publicly, eh?

I probably could reveal that I overcook broccoli and occasionally dream of my high-school boyfriend. Hmm, that's two out of seven already.

And I have more books on my shelf than I'll ever finish reading. Wow, only four more to go ...

I squeeze peaches in the supermarket.

I could play Flight of the BumbleBee on the accordion when I was 14 years old, but my real show stopper was Malaguena.

I never learned to drive stick-shift, kept stalling the darn car.

I have been driving (automatic) since age 16. It was more fun than playing Flight of the BumbleBee on the accordion. My first car was my dad's 1960 aqua T-Bird. It is still my favorite car of all times.

I went to several proms in a '57 Chevy driven by the high-school boyfriend I still dream about.

I had my first crush on a boy in third grade and kissed him in the Tunnel of Love boat ride at a school picnic. Sophie tells me that she's already got her eyes on someone in first grade.

I kept a diary all through high-school and one year beyond. I still have it.

I just did a re-count and I'm over the limit. Maybe I can do this after all.

I can't tag fellow bloggers, though, because most of them have already been through this exercise.

I have just used the pronoun "I" over 20 times in this post. My psyche is imploding. I must return to "we", "you" and "they" to re-balance.

Hannah and Sophie wrote on-line diary entries with my help. They dictated; I typed.

Babci to Hannah (who was sitting on her lap): "So what would you like to say in your diary?"

Hannah (after some quiet reflection): "Babci, you're special."

I may overcook broccoli but I know how to raise grandkids.

Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Triad

Three generations
Consonance and dissonance
Like notes in a chord

Let there be music
That relates and resonates
Marches, polkas, fugues

We sing and we dance
We trip lightly and with grace
Each to our own tune

Sometimes we collide
Choreography all wrong
The dance still goes on

We learn by doing
Counterpoint and melody
Three beats to a waltz

Leitmotif, our lives
So connected yet apart
We are mystery

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

Mosaic


You, my granddaughter,
Are spirited and spunky
Full of life and love

I, your grandmother,
Welcome your kaleidescope
Absorb your color

You, too, reflect me
We share a common palette
Colors mix and blend

How does this happen?
Not choosing, being chosen
Many hues and shades

We come from rainbows
Sparkle in each other's arms
Celebrate the light



Wednesday, July 11, 2007

Happy trails

I've been living here almost a year and finally set foot on the Appalachian Trail over the weekend. The kids called and invited me for a short hike. Since I've gained a few pounds this past winter, I couldn't resist the offer. My couch-potato self rose to the occasion.

The trail isn't far from my house but it's fairly inconspicuous from the main road. The sign is actually on a driveway which borders a private home. The driveway leads to the trail and common path. I guess the homeowners like to watch people backpacking past their side windows. No one invited us in for coffee though.





Even though I challenged myself a few years back in the Canadian Rockies, I haven't done much hiking since. So I found myself huffing and puffing going up a slight incline. Humiliating. Embarrassing. The younger generation and their dogs forged ahead while I swatted mosquitoes, took photos (great excuse for going more slowly), wondered why I didn't think to bring bug spray, and considered just how long it would be before I slipped in the mud and flopped on my butt.

Remembering my past experience in Canada (took a bad spill first day out), I decided to improve my safety record by improvising a walking stick from a tree branch. When Sophie turned around and saw me, she started to scold because the girls are not allowed to hold sticks while hiking. I invoked senior privileges.

The girls were surprisingly agile and really had a good time. I did too. I actually got into a rhythm with my walking stick and it brought back memories of that other summer when I pretended I was Maria from The Sound of Music and twirled on a mountaintop.

Grown kids, little kids, two dogs and a babci made it to a mossy clearing where the girls ate peanut-butter sandwiches and searched for berries.





I made the mistake of asking the children if they saw any Indians hiding behind trees. My politically-correct daughter was aghast. She didn't grow up with Roy Rogers and Dale Evans, Lone Ranger and Tonto, Buffalo Bob and Princess Summerfall Winterspring. When I was Sophie's age, the game of choice was Cowboys and Indians, not White Men Who Abuse Equines and Indigenous American People. We chose sides and our bikes were our horses. We even played with toy guns. Bows and arrows were allowed too. Imagine that.

Everyone managed to come down from the trail with dignity intact. No spills or tumbles.

I just had to extract my foot from my mouth.

Thursday, June 28, 2007

Tough love

Warning: The following contains graphic images. If you really, really, really love your plants, refrain from viewing.

You were beautiful and caught my eye immediately. I had been searching for the perfect match for a long time. I knew what I wanted and you delivered. It was love at first sight. You seemed so vibrant, so perky, in the full bloom of youth. I knew you were the one for me.

Convinced that you and I had a future together, I reached into my wallet and paid $22 for the privilege of taking you home.

Love for sale.

Day One: I hung you on the porch and gave you a drink. “Hydrate, hydrate” said the garden-shop clerk. And then I smiled as I watched you, in all your glory, through my kitchen window. We were off to such a promising start.

Day Two: “Hydrate, hydrate.” You were still upturned and thirsty (or so I thought) so I took my yellow watering can and sprinkled some more.


Day Three: You and I obviously missed the cues. Suddenly, oh so suddenly, you went limp. You were sagging more than I. How could one so young and lively turn into such a sad spectacle?




Day Four: Is there such a thing as CPR for a plant? Or Viagra?


Where did I go wrong? I’m sorry. Plant abuse. May I plead ignorance and lack of a green thumb? My yellow watering can, the probable culprit, has been banished to the far corner of the porch. Perhaps you like your summer hot and dry. Some like it hot.

Is there any hope of re-kindling our affair? Lift a leaf. Send me a sign.

Come back. I miss you.

Sunday, June 17, 2007

Daddies


To watch my grandkids bloom and grow
Requires fathers who do sow
The seeds of wonder and delight
Tending, tilling, giving insight

Fathers who are often tired

Yet who can teach and inspire
Little minds who never rest
Always making new requests

Being loving, being there
Showing that a dad does care
I see my son in this demanding role
And son-in-law too, loyal souls

They provide fertile ground
For their children to grow up sound
Helping kids to choose well
Hoping that they turn out swell

At times it can seem an endless test
Yet what they do for their children best
Is remembering through their busy lives
To show the kids they love their wives

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY TO JOE AND DAVID!

Thursday, June 07, 2007

The wager

I pick Sophie up from kindergarten and am driving her home. Vivaldi's Four Seasons is playing on my tape deck. It's one of her favorite tapes. She is always a happy camper if I have classical or polka music to offer.

Sophie: "I really like this music."
Babci: "I do too."

Few minutes of critical listening.

Sophie: "I bet this is Winter."
Babci: "You know, I'm not really sure ... it could be Fall or Summer."
Sophie: "No, I think it's Winter. Do you want to bet? I have three dollars."

A six-year old is actually daring me to put up some money. Do they teach music appreciation and gambling in kindergarten?

I take the bet.

Babci: "Okay, you're on. I say it's Fall."
Sophie (confidently): "It's Winter."

We stop the car and I extract the tape to read the program.

It's Winter.

Cash only, no credit cards or checks accepted.

Tuesday, June 05, 2007

Rainbows


I've been working at the new job as school counselor for the past nine months. It's been challenging and I sometimes have doubts about my ability to deliver what's expected. It's a new position and I'm literally starting from scratch, building a foundation to a program which will serve the students for years to come.

The school year has gone by quickly and these last few weeks remind me of final deadlines yet to be met. I never cared much for the term multi-tasking but realize it's what I do. The days are never boring and I'm learning as I'm doing. I think the students have accepted me, as much as teenagers can. I have gotten to know some of them and feel very protective. They are becoming "my kids".

I am so busy trying to get it right that I sometimes forget to step back and enjoy small victories, like finding a tutor for a struggling student or taking a busload of high-school students to their very first college fair or helping to unlock dreams and wishes for the future.

Something happens today. For some reason, all the many things-to-do unexpectedly fall into place like pieces of a puzzle. I am needed by a colleague and provide a valuable service. I see positive changes in my students, more hope and excitement building for attaining new goals. Everything clicks. Projects I have been working on for awhile start to shape up. New resources and possibilities emerge. I truly feel like I have finally become a part of the school community, no longer an outsider. Even though it is a typical fast-paced, hectic day, I have never felt more peaceful.

As I drive home, I watch dark clouds racing around the mountain tops and listen to the distant rumble of thunder. The local forecast is predicting stormy weather but I am smiling.

There is a rainbow in my heart.

Sunday, May 27, 2007

True colors


They're back!

I unexpectedly came across this news report and suddenly I was a kid again, glued to a black-and-white TV screen, watching the rough-and-tumble antics of the roller derby queens. It was the early 1950s and we were being bombarded by lots of variety and sport shows but the roller derby was in a league by itself, kind of the underbelly of respectable femininity. After all, moms wore dresses and hats and their daughters were taught to never hit or strike anyone and be good little girls.

All social norms went flying as I sat cross-legged on my living-room floor mesmerized by the speed and spunk of these ladies. Mom and dad seemed to enjoy the spectacle too, even rooting for their favorites. Still, it was not the real world. In the real world, women had no need to express themselves so forcefully. Father knew best. I can't help but wonder if my mom and aunts didn't get a certain vicarious pleasure out of seeing such scrappy women, bruised and on their knees but getting up again to give it their best shot.

Men had their ball games and camaraderie and plenty of heroes to emulate. My mom's generation had Rosie the Riveter (who was displaced as soon as the WWII vets came marching home again) and Betty Crocker. The men needed the jobs, so the working women were told "go home and cook". It was the beginning of the baby-boom generation and affordable tract housing and life was good, or as good as it got during those somewhat bland and monotone years in the 50s.

Color television had not yet arrived on the scene, so watching roller derby on black-and-white made it even more gritty and exciting. You couldn't see the colorful bruises though. Painful encounters of the anti-establishment culture. What did these women do when they weren't beating the hell out of each other? Mothers? Kindergarten teachers? They didn't seem like the type to just go home and cook.

Whoever they were, in the real world, was a mystery. Maybe their true identity was so stifled that they needed the roller derby to release all the pent-up emotions of being the good girl, the one who stayed home and cooked.

According to the above article, today's roller derby gals are, indeed, accountants and teachers and doctors and grad students - many out there for reasons other than just being a traditional homemaker. It's a new era with new rules and it seems that women are still looking to flex their muscles, let it rip, unleash that hidden goddess, Athena. The more things change, the more they stay the same.

Why all this pontificating on a lazy Sunday morning? Probably because I never got the chance to let it rip as a kid. Only-child syndrome. I was the only kid on my block who learned to roller skate on one skate because I'd be less likely to fall and hurt myself. I guess it was a form of maternal protection. Maybe Mom didn't want me to get too good at the sport and then sign up for roller derby. In the real world, nice girls could only dream of being that scrappy.

That was then; this is now. Nice girls can do anything they damn well please.