Saturday, September 16, 2006

Bras and boundaries

Well, I did it. Couldn't leave well enough alone. Hauled my load of wash over to daughter's and decided to be helpful and throw some of her dark items into the washer along with mine. How was I to know that a certain expensive undergarment was so delicate that it didn't belong in the maelstrom of a churning agitator? Simply put: brown bra lying in a laundry hamper was off limits. Luckily, I swept that puppy right out in time to revive it with a cold rinse ("by hand ONLY Mom") and assured the daughter that momma will never again assume that objects lying atop her laundry bin are actually ripe for the picking. One would think ...

We're off and running. Up here a month. Getting in each other's hair and laundry bins. Sharing secrets. Telling tales. Pushing kids in strollers. Day dreaming and saving our pennies for outrageous purchases from tony home-furnishing catalogs. Laughing a lot. Crying a bit. Trying to set some boundaries around "her world" and my new world.

Just like a good bra, there's always room for expansion.

5 comments:

Grangry said...

I know just what you mean, I love my daughter (who is also called Jen) to bits, she is my best friend, but I cannot BE IN THE SAME KITCHEN!!!!

kirsten said...

Be thankful that you two are both smart enough to know that boundaries and rules are required! Yesterday on Dr Phil I saw the MOTHER FROM HELL who had moved next door to her daughter and SIL. They were contemplating moving to IRELAND to get away from her!!!!!

kirsten said...

Oooh, forgot to say that we lived next door to my parents for three years and it was BLISSFUL because, like you, we figured out the rules. Now my sister and her husband and kids live next door to Mum and Dad and they love it, too.

Anonymous said...

interestingly my mom has rented an apt in my new village -= and my baby sister lives here with her husband and son and soontobe baby brother. I am the eldest (there are five girls).

she plans to come up every month or so for a few weeks.

we are thrilled but also it will be WEIRD - i havent lived in the same town as my mom since i graduated from COLLEGE!

this sister came to live with me in NYC when she was 19 so we have quite a history but have survived a lot.

sc@vp said...

love you mater - you guys will figure it out.